#life

Never Judge People

https://pixabay.com/photos/sport-action-muay-thai-fight-1450863/ We don't like when people judge us for our actions and if we put the same condition on us people are being judged by us. Rather than judging others and finding faults we should ask the person if he is facing any problem in his life or what is the possible reason for a person's action.

I strongly believe that one should work on the improvement of the system, this will directly hit the actions of the people. Rather than finding a problem in the attitude of people, we should provide the opportunity to improve and grow out of that problem. The simple formula is, find the flaw, suggest a solution, apply the solution, examine the results. Keep doing this again n again until you get your desired results.

https://pixabay.com/photos/word-encourage-scrabble-tiles-1940813/ I am reading people from last 3 years from a different eye i.e. my wife's perspective. I realized that different people see things differently. Some see that a person has tried well and applause him/her for the great effort while others criticize the same person for the same effort and count his attempt as a failure only. Why criticism is bad, as there are rare chances that the opponent is going to take this as a challenge and put all his/her effort to grow out of that problem. Why encouraging always have positive results and there are more chances that a person is going to try as compared to criticism.

I also want to admit that I am a life student and trying to adopt this as a skill set. I am struggling a lot, failing again n again, but trying my best to stay on the track. I might be taking time but I know I am going to reach there. For now, I am trying to speak less and I found this a key to do less mistake unless you master the skill of encouragement.

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@ioanasolea(55)· 2617d
I agree, we shouldn't judge anyone, especially if we are not fully aware of the situation of that peron and what makes him or her act in a certain way. Rather than trying to impose our own point of view regarding another person's deeds, we should pay more attention to how we act and how we affect others. Usually, those who rush to judge other people without thinking twice are also the target of harsh judgements which only feeds the cycle of criticism.
@machnbirdsparo(66)· 2633d
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@andersdult(41)· 2639d
Hi, a well-made article post.

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@fucho80(69)· 2639d
Dear @uio, it is a great topic of conversation that you present, I must tell you that I found this publication thanks to the reference of our good friend @crypto.piotr

Rather than judging others and finding faults we should ask the person if he is facing any problem in his life or what is the possible reason for a person's action.

Unfortunately one of the frequent mistakes of people is to make hasty judgments. In my country there is a saying, "as they see you are treated" many people do not stop to think or consult the reaction of any reaction of yours, simply shoot their criticism without measuring the consequences of it, or the damage they can cause.

Like you, I think highlighting people's strengths, encouraging them and praising them for the effort will have a positive impact and help them improve what they do.

Thanks for sharing.
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@sigmundfreud(52)· 2639d
You preach in this post not to judge people yet you are trying to tell people how to think in terms of other individuals. So you think that people judge others, isnt that a judgement itself? You are judging steem community by assuming that - at least some steemians - do judge others.
@wiseman91(61)· 2639d
Most people judge others for their look, outfit, way of doing things. Not everything is wrong in being different and choosing unpopular paths. Often, it is better to change background where you feel there is no space for you. Rude people will always push you down with critics. Believe in yourself, don't follow. Sky is the limit if you see it... or maybe - like Elon Musk you are looking above sky, then space is open :)
@coininstant(69)· 2639d
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@oivas(71)· 2639d
Good point. The issue with judgement is that our mind does not know where to stop. It continues to judge everyone and finally us too. Hence best to leave it... Judgement, I mean.. 😊 😊

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@abduljalil.mbo(65)· 2639d
Nice post @uio
@redpossum(48)· 2639d
Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. Matthew 7:1-2

These are the words of Jesus himself, from the Sermon on the Mount, as related by the disciple Matthew. One of the reasons I can no longer be a Christian is because so many who call themselves such choose to ignore passages like this, and simply use their religion as a cloak to excuse and sanctify their own narrow-minded bigotry.

But I do not quote these words to you as religious instruction. I offer them as a pragmatic observation on how to get along with people. One of the beauties of Matthew 7 is that most of it is not really about religion, but simple practical advice on living together in a community.
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@crypto.piotr(65)· 2640d
Dear @uio and @everyone else reading this comment

Interesting choice of topic.

Personally I found being judgemental is one of the worst habbit people have. It doesn't seem to help anyone, simply because those people are usually having only negative judgements.

Dealing with those who judge you can feel like drinking a poison. So obviously most of us would like to cut ourselfs off from those who act this way.

Your suggestion is absolutely perfect. Encouraging and supporting our close friends will surely bring better results.

And just like you've said:

Why criticism is bad, there are rare chances that the opponent is going to take this as a challenge and put all his/her effort to grow out of that problem.

I hope you don't mind that I will share your post with wider audience and will get you some extra traffic (hopefully you do also reply to comments :)

I would like to know how others deal with judgemental people, especially if we are forced to be around some of them (family memebers or close friends).

Yours Piotr

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