While we talk about money and success, it's also important that we talk about love. Because among them all, marriage with a woman becomes a lifetime institution and once you fail in it, the misery lasts for a long time. This book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus was written by John Gray and operates on a simple, powerful metaphor stating that men and women originate from two different planets. Which means they both have their distinct culture, communication style, values, and emotional needs. Gray asserts in his book that misunderstanding and falling out of love stems from forgetting the fact that men and women naturally think, process stress, and react differently.
According to Gray, rather than trying to change one's partner into a carbon copy of himself, he believes it's important to always remember the fact that the two genders are different and that's what makes a healthy relationship.
In the chapters, Gray breaks down several responses men and women have in different situations. For example, during stress, men may choose to handle stress by withdrawing, solving problems silently, or probably distracting themselves with news, games, or sports, but women handle their stress by talking through all their feelings to feel understood and supported. If anyone tries to handle stress the opposite way, misunderstanding may likely arise.
Men and women are motivated differently. While men feel motivated when they are needed, trusted, and appreciated, women feel motivated when they are cared for, cherished, and supported. The book contains several examples that show how men who are from Mars differ in handling and responding to situations from women who come from Venus.
What makes the book catchy is, first, the metaphor, taking complex psychological concepts and turning them into an immediately recognizable cultural framework. This book also helps reduce guilt and self blame, making everything fall back to the fact that they exist from a different planet. In the book, there's a deep empathy and equal framing by highlighting good intentions behind every flawed behavior, and finally, Gray shares a lot of personal stories in his book, making it relatable and easy to grasp.
However, the book, judging from its excuse for every behavior, may turn out to be an excuse for poor behavior without making an effort to change, and a part of the book shows a reinforcement of rigid gender stereotypes.
If you want to understand how different genders react, respond, and manage in different scenarios, then this book is for you.
Rating: 70/100
Originally posted through scrobble.life/books.
