Talking about family, families are the set of people who shaped us, they play a good role in our growth, sometimes, they also help us find our purpose in life and encourage us to pursue our dreams and achieve our life goals. But sadly, many of us have different expressions with our families while growing up. Some love they share with their family as children can also fade away when growing up this always happens in a polygamous family. Where some mothers create malice with their co-wife.
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I have seen many people who hate on their families because when they were in need, they never helped them, they always look for their own, and that act might be fueled by a friend outside there who don't know the love they shared with their family when growing up.
With my small experience of how family moves, I don't think the childhood love and cares that takes place in a family will determine the strength of the family. Why? You see, they are those who believe in family and they are those who don't, it may sound crazy but I tell you it's real.
Some people just grow up with that mentality of "I don't need my family."
And also, one day they all will be grown-ups, they will have to separate in share of their future and when they do, they also get to meet different people from different home who also have different families foundations.
This people in one way or the other can spoil their mind against their family and make them see the bad time they heard with their family and not the good time, I have seen sure thing before and I learnt from there. Families plays a major role in the life of everybody because they can make you rise and they can also bring you down, and you might be wondering " are those the same people that I came from the same bloodline with". It's just life for you.
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My experience with my family is a crazy one, I mean my extended family. Because my parents don't leave close to their families and I just hear them talk on phone, sometimes I wound want to hear what they are saying, but I don't because they speak in our dialect with I don't understand then. I sometimes get to talk to them ones in a while. For many years I only saw a few times, I also haven't seen some of my cousins, and if I do see them on the road, I will pass them because I don't know them. Some times I feel bad, so times I don't, I don't feel bad because I have been trained that way, I mean, all my years grow up, I never enjoyed that love that comes from an extended family, I mean, we just talked on phone.
I don't have a good relationship with my extended family and I don't want my children to follow the same road as I do, I will try my best to link them up and keep the relationship among them going.
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