When it comes to friendship, my taste and patterns have changed a lot. It takes an extra bond for me to consider someone a friend or to rekindle the kind of bond I used to have with friends when I was younger. Even in those younger days of mine, I didn't just move with everyone; I had good clicks with certain people.
At this age in my life, if I were placed in a room with my old friends, would I be able to rekindle the flow of friendship with them easily?
The thing is, not all the people I considered friends back then are still living life the way they used to. A lot has happened to them, and these experiences have changed them in different ways. As such, it would be very difficult to bring back the fun and bond of friendship we shared in those days. I remember a certain day when I was eager to hear from a cousin with whom I bonded a lot when we were living in the village. I found his contact, and we talked for a while. I tried to bring up those old memories, but the guy didn't seem to be interested in going down memory lane. He was very straightforward about the happenings in his life. I felt as though I was trying to force my way into a space where I was no longer needed. What I did afterwards was simple: I just left it at that after we ended the conversation.
But the truth is that there are people who are always at ease and can blend in effortlessly, no matter the situation. I have a childhood friend who is currently outside Nigeria. We don't talk often, but anytime he sees my call ringing on his phone or I see his call ringing on mine, we are always eager to pick up. The first few lines we exchange after picking up the phone are usually enough to send us into endless laughter. This is a result of the bond we built during our teenage years, and it has stood the test of time despite the many years we have spent physically apart.
If I were put in a room with this kind of person, it wouldn't take me up to 30 seconds before we started flowing well in our friendship.
So this is how it works for me. Rekindling a friendship with old friends depends on the person kind of life, how we had it back then and also how he handles life at the moment.
There's a friend I've been looking forward to reconnecting with again, one of those guys I grew up with. We did a lot of hard jobs together to earn money, such as clearing farmlands for farmers and working on building sites. If I happen to be put in a room with this guy, even though we haven't heard from each other in over 10 years, we would reconnect with ease, probably within a minute. No matter how much he has changed over the years, the connection will still be there because we actually did a lot together when we were growing up.
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