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I have been hearing about Arimony and everyone seem to have an opinion about the movie. I missed watching it in the cinema, so i decided to watch in the Box office. The movie is a 'typical' Tyler Perry movie and it's worth the debate it sparked online. I'm not here to do a review, I just want to share my thoughts about the movie.
Here is a rundown incase you've not seen the movie.. Melinda Gayle met the man of her dreams, Robert in college, a mechanical engineering student that is building a battery he believed would make him rich. Melinda's mum passed away leaving her 350k dollars and her house, she eventually started going out with poor Robert against her sisters' wish. Melinda caught Robert cheating with Diana in his trailer and she jammed the trailer with her car, causing a fatal accident that destroy her ovaries. Melinda eventally married Robert, and after they graduate he revealed that he couldn't get a white collar job because he is a felon. For 18 years Melinda supported him, loosing her money and her house, she had to work 2 jobs to keep them alive. Meanwhile, Robert kept tryng to sell his batteries to Prescort, a capitalist to no avail, 20 years later He ran into Diana, who is now an assistant to Prescort. Melinda eventually divorces Robert after she's had enough, Diana helps him secure the deal with her boss, he became rich. Paid Melinda 10million dollars and got back the house for her, and married Diana. Melinda went crazy, she felt that Diana is reaping the fruits of her labour and she was out to destroy them, but she eventually destroyed herself..
My thoughts
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Melinda
She ignored the red flags: The very first mistake she made was to marry Robert. It was obvious he didn't care about her, he doesn't even call except she does. The only time they are seen together is when he is trying to get money from her. She dug her pit herself..
She didn't have a vision of her own: She never had what she wanted to do with her life and because of that she was living to please Robert and lost everything..
She didn't set boundaries: No matter how much you love someone, there should be a limit of what she should tolerate. She made it obvious that she can tolerate any shit, that made it easy for Robert to manipulate her. After she lost everything, she started working 2 jobs to feed a full grown, healthy man, wtf!
She had serious anger issues: The psychologist the court made her see said she has Borderline personality disorder also known as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, which explains her rage and anger issues but she didn't make any effort to work on herself and that made her a ticking time bomb..
Generally, she is a faithful, loyal supportive woman that married the wrong man.
Robert
He's selfish: All he does is take, take and take.. After hearing of Mel's inheritance, he always look for ways to take from her. He didn't genuinely love her, if he did, he didn't make any effort to prove it. The only time he tries to show Love is when he has something to loose..
He loves being a liability: He had a dream but he didn't want to work for it. He wanted to build his dream on Melinda's pocket and even when the $350k finished, he convinced her to mortgage her house and she also had to work 2 jobs take care of him. He didn't make any effort to be a husband, the only time he attempted to work was when Melinda asked him to leave the house, ofcourse he had to work so that he can eat.
He's insensitive: Everything has to be about him, he's not sensitive to his wife needs, it's just his batteries. It's good to have dreams but then he would have worked for it and also try to be a husband. Melinda's sisters were not in support of that marriage and their fears were true. After Melinda asked him to leave because she thought he cheated on her again with Diana and after he almost ruined her sister's husbands business, he didn't try to call her as usual, he didn't try to find out how she was doing, if she has lost the house, nothing.. He didn't keep in touch for 3 months, not even an effort to come back or to explain himself for one last time, he didn't make any effort to keep his marriage. Not until, he was presented with the divorce paper that he tried to sweet talk her, Melinda was clearly pained, ofcourse it's painful..
Diana
It's obvious that she pulled the strings for Prescort to change his mind to favour Robert, but why didn't she do it when He was with Melinda? Why did she wait till when Robert was alone and homeless and she has obviously fallen for him and ofcourse doing this for him will make him hers, and it did..
I honestly don't think Diana can be half the woman Melinda was to Robert, she was just in a position to help him.. Let's imagine that Diana is not the assistant to Prescort, that she is just a regular woman with a regular job will she stay 20 years with a liability like Robert? I doubt that..
What i think Robert should have done differently..
I think he should have paid Diana the 10 million dollars and gone back to his wife. No amount of money can buy back the years and emotional trauma Melinda lost caring for him. Yes, she divorced him but that was because he was insensitive. She asked him to go when she was angry, if he truly cared, he would have called but he didn't make any effort to fight for them. Women are so sensitive, if he tried to call her and apologised, or to show care or to keep in touch, she would have forgiven him but he didn't and she was convinced that he didn't care and divorced him. But then divorce is not even an excuse, people divorce and get back together, so he had no excuse.. Diana helped him because it was convenient for her, she just happened to be in the position to do that, so paying her is the best thing to do. Go back to Melinda and give her the best years of her life, prove to her that he truly loved her and make her happy...
For me this is what he should have done..
It's so sad that Melinda didn't get help, I feel so sad that she ended up the way she did. I wish she got help to get over the disorder she had, it's unfortunate she didn't and it ruined her.
These things happen in relationships.. Ladies should take their time to define themselves, their vision and goals in life before starting a relationship. If you don't have a life first, you will start living for someone else and your happiness will be built on them, that's what happened to Melinda..
p.s. Robert might be a good man to other women, but he was not good for Melinda..
Thanks for reading.. What do you think?
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