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Sam’s Hangout #120 - “HYPER-INDEPENDENCE”

"Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string." - Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Hello, my lovely Hive Naija people. It’s another beautiful weekend, and we’re excited to have you here once again. A new weekend simply means another chance to buzz the Hive blockchain, connect with one another, and simply have fun. You'll also agree with me that there’s something special about bringing everyone together to gist, share opinions, and enjoy good vibes. That is exactly the reason we will continue to meet every weekend.

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HYPER-INDEPENDENCE

Now to our discussion for this weekend! We will be discussing "HYPER-INDEPENDENCE”.
Being self-reliant is often seen as a sign of strength, maturity, and resilience towards an unpredictable life. However, when it gets to the extremes of hyper-independence where one becomes totally unwilling to ask for help or trust their loved ones to show up for them in times of need, it may begin to raise questions about a deeper problem. It could be rooted in past relationship patterns, childhood history or personal growth, all of which raises further concerns about when it should be termed unhealthy.

Here's the question!

Do you think being hyper-independent should always be seen as a strength, or you believe it's a trauma response and can sometimes become a barrier to receiving support and building healthy relationships with others? If you've experienced hyper-independence yourself, what do you think contributed to it, and how has it shaped or affected your life?

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you struggled to ask for help, or depend on others, even when you genuinely needed support and knew you could have had it if only you asked? Do you in any way believe hyper-independence is your personality trait and not a response to past traumatic experiences or disappointment?

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Be as simple and sincere with the discussion, hehehe.

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FRIDAY PLANS, OWANBE SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY REFLECTIONS

To make our hangout more interactive, we have decided to add two events to spice it up.

On Saturdays, we share our owanbe stories, party gists, and even pictures.

On Sundays, we reflect on the weekend and things we learnt so far, as well as share plans for the new week.

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Comments · 9

@commentrewarder(75)· 39d
Update: @sam.hangout, I paid out 39.007 HIVE and 0.000 HBD to reward 14 comments in this discussion thread.
@yechee(71)· 44d
Independence is what we ought to see as a strength because it’s a testament to an individual’s commitment to become responsible for themselves. But hyper-independence? No! That is the extreme and should never be glorified like people do.

Besides, there’s no single hyper-dependent person who doesn’t have a back story. From poverty to being constantly dismissed by parents who had the means to being traumatized for simply asking for help from a guardian or blossom friend who cared less or being affected by their environment they grew up in and the stories they heard. It’s a long list. I hope we continue to recognize these patterns and make efforts to change them in the best possible way we can.
@chefqueen(68)· 44d
It's situation and trauma that cause hyper independent,no one wishes not to having someone they can lean on,Anyone living a hyper independent life is definitely from a place of pain and survival.

I didn't plan to be strongly independent but I came from a family that everyone of us was struggling on our own to make ends means,so no one to call on or go meet. It wasn't my choice,life chooses for me oo because sometimes I just wish I have people to rely on and I don't have to be this independent of a thing,I do get overwhelmed with this whole independent thing sometimes.
@marsdave(73)· 44d
Happy weekend, Fams. I've been battling with network issue for close to a week now. Soooo frustrating 🥺💔🥺

What a thought-provoking topic we have here .. I'm in church ATM, coming back here very soon 😁

@goldenproject @chefqueen @van.illa @yalloveme @soma1 @zali.bee

Let's here from you guys 😉
@nkemakonam89(78)· 44d
oh boy...the party is starting late this weekend well, it's one of those days

let's get going.... @empressjay , it's been decade oo.. where art thou???????
@dwixer(73)· 45d

Do you think being hyper-independent should always be seen as a strength, or you believe it's a trauma response and can sometimes become a barrier to receiving support and building healthy relationships with others? If you've experienced hyper-independence yourself, what do you think contributed to it, and how has it shaped or affected your life?

Answer Hyper-independent isn't a strength. It's just a trait in an individual who doesn't find depending on others comfortable probably due to upbringing or some life personal experiences.

I've been there until I realized I can't make life all alone, sometimes I need people to survive. It started from my childhood programming, my grandma didn't like depending on people for things probably due to past disappointments and I learned from it. Growing up, I realized I've suffered in silence many times and it wasn't helping because people still depends on me- told myself I'm not god, and can't continue to act like one.

A balance is good, whatever is too much or too little has effect on the the long or short run.
@afrikens(70)· 45d
So the thing is that, some people do not actually count been hyper-independent as a problem. It's just their personal trait and policy. They want to do things on their own and not basically because of their past traumatic experience with people either they've had one or not simply because they own to such title of being hyper-independent

I am independent person and I know how it feels actually sorting things by yourself, the whole stress, sole responsibility and honour that comes with it to actually solve your problems yourself but I can't claim to be the HYPER part because I seek for help at the point I feel like it is overwhelming or that I need support of which I don't think is bad of any other person to do if they are willing to.

I can say I had the trait right from time but I was able to build more on it to become firm because of how I've seen people mock others behind them simply because they seek for their help and support. So it took me time to know the right people to seek support from whenever I need one.

The times I feel like it's hard to ask for help is when I know that the circle of people I seek help from is actually not stable and facing their own issues as well, then it becomes an issue for me confiding in a new person whom I'm not sure is genuinely ready to listen.

Some will be thinking in their minds like that that I have trust issue 😀

@marsdave come and hold the mic o @goldenproject and queen E @chefqueen should follow and @van.illa should round up
@afrikens(70)· 45d
Should I answer now or come back later? Feeling sleepy 🤔

Anyways you people should not dirty the floor o as you step in cos some of una slippers don carry mud like that 😜

Use the buffet as you pleases but don't finish the food sha
@afrikens(70)· 45d
Hehehehe First to be here and cat walking sef 😅 Oya ooo you people should wake up from your sleep @marsdave @goldenproject @chefqueen @van.illa @nkemakonam89 @soma1 @zali.bee

Network is not bringing una names o so manage it if I no tag your name wella 😀

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